tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post8372760834112029860..comments2023-06-16T06:35:04.790-07:00Comments on Bitter Words: What's Love Got To Do With It?: Pre-nups: Yay or Nay25champhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00031759739084066386noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-74499963329074534602011-03-14T06:07:55.575-07:002011-03-14T06:07:55.575-07:00@Petula I wish we all could sign a prenup like tha...@Petula I wish we all could sign a prenup like that, but most people change their minds do to their circumstances (Dog eat Dog). As 4 ur example of a regular life.... no I dont think she should hav 2 sit home wit the kids....but why should it just fall on her. Fathers are deserving of keeping the kids as well...Society would rather place these fathers on child support rather than giving the split custody so that the father doesn't have taking care of 2 households, but that's another story.I can say this because I have joint custody of my daughter and know the hell u go thru to get it. When woman receives half it's usually car, house and kids so it's really an unfair deal. I think at the end of the day a faith driven relationship is about as good as it gets. Thanks 4 sharing25champhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031759739084066386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-17868255980162895692010-10-12T17:28:59.064-07:002010-10-12T17:28:59.064-07:00I'm with Don... with a little additional from ...I'm with Don... with a little additional from my perspective. Let's look at it from a "regular" situation. You're just a hardworking man who marries a girl. Y'all have about five kids in a little less than four years and although she does some freelancing on the side, she mainly takes care of the home, the kids and you while you bring the bread home. Y'all split. Don't you think it's right for her to be able to continue to stay home with your children and run her business while she lives the life she's accustomed to. Remember, it's a "regular" life. What makes this different if you have millions? So, I say no prenup. It may make legal sense when there are millionaires involved, but - you're right - it makes no sense in love. <br /><br />I'd like to see every couple sign a prenup: "I the undersigned agree to not turn you into the enemy, lie, yell, scream and change my point of view of you in the event of a divorce. I agree to treat you with dignity and respect regardless of the parameters and reasons of the divorce. I will behave like a civilized adult and remember the reasons I wanted to be with you in the first place in order to make this an easy process. I won't call you out of your name and spread rumors. I agree to make this transition of our lives as easy and as stress free as possible. And, if there are children involved, I agree not to sully your name to them in any way and abide by the common-sense rule that each parent is the only person that can teach their children how to treat their parents."Petulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11246335892746223347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-71249150212502910072010-03-01T13:43:07.736-08:002010-03-01T13:43:07.736-08:00@ Reggie... More than half do end in divorce, but ...@ Reggie... More than half do end in divorce, but most of the time it's because of financial concerns so they probably aren't going to be much division of assets. On some level i feel faith is the way to go, but human side of me would want to protect whats mine. Thanx for your comment!25champhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031759739084066386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-48801135475906176872010-03-01T10:42:26.180-08:002010-03-01T10:42:26.180-08:00More than half of all marriages end in divorce. A...More than half of all marriages end in divorce. As sad as it sounds, maybe a prenup is the thing to do.Reggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02228963124180428762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-72187339491381838202009-12-29T09:29:15.054-08:002009-12-29T09:29:15.054-08:00Thanks Don I too still believe in love that's ...Thanks Don I too still believe in love that's why I am deadlock on this subject. Thanks for your insight.25champhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031759739084066386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-28405293003855822392009-12-29T05:10:07.790-08:002009-12-29T05:10:07.790-08:00I have to be honest and say that if I were ever to...I have to be honest and say that if I were ever to be worth millions and decided to marry ... I wouldn't require a pre nuptial agreement. I know it might sound crazy, but I just couldn't see myself putting forth an honest effort while thinking that there's a possibility she would walk away with pretty much half of the monies. <br /><br />I believe in love so that would be enough for me. If she gets me ... then she got me. ha.Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02904024507867487521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-10636527787294011222009-12-16T09:21:33.074-08:002009-12-16T09:21:33.074-08:00To JStar I definetly feel you on that one.To JStar I definetly feel you on that one.25champhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031759739084066386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-42546354652444657082009-12-16T09:19:51.809-08:002009-12-16T09:19:51.809-08:00Thanks 4 ur comment Mizrepresent u defintely shed ...Thanks 4 ur comment Mizrepresent u defintely shed light on the subject.25champhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031759739084066386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-71780906148559319842009-12-16T04:00:36.544-08:002009-12-16T04:00:36.544-08:00It would be nice is "Happily Ever After"...It would be nice is "Happily Ever After" truly existed in 2010. Sad to say to marriages dont last like they used to...People dont work hard enough at love anymore...Some marry for the wrong reasons...Love takes work on both parts...Why walk down that isle if you are not ready to put in your share of the work...JStarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17099140114891597338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179752774155202843.post-17388501607319739172009-12-15T14:39:58.686-08:002009-12-15T14:39:58.686-08:00In this day in age they are almost required. We ma...In this day in age they are almost required. We marry for love, but sometimes, as you have already pointed out, somebody might just have a bigger purse. What if, 6 mos down the line the marriage ends, and your SO wants half of what you have worked all your life to achieve? Are they deserving of that? No? They deserve 6 mos, that is all. Prenups can work, if it works out for both individuals. We go into marriage believing it can last forever, if it does, money or materials should never be a factor. You share everything...but then again, there are as we know some folks who may be up to ill good and just want what you got. For us normal, just above poverity, somewhat middleclass folks, this may never come into question, but let one of you die and see a family come at you with everything they got. A prenup can work even in the the mininalist way, if both parties agree...if not, then go back to the drawing board...believe me you will see if they are in it for the money or for love. Great post. I'm here from Minus the Bars.Mizrepresenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992754393960138393noreply@blogger.com