Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Pre-nups: Yay or Nay

I’m deadlocked on this issue!
When people sign a prenuptial agreement they agree, before they get married, how to divide up assets in the event of a divorce! WTF Man ! What gets me is the whole conflict in them: the position of “I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you”, with the caveat of “oh, baby but just in case” can you sign this.I do understand the practical level about how prenups are – practical, but on the level of love, I don’t see how you’re allowed to hedge your bets when it comes to marriage! I thought marriage was the ultimate expression of love. Signing a prenups makes marriage an ultimate expression of love with an asterisk *on the side. If you build together than there should be an equal value split amongst the two.
On the flip side if I’m a well to do and you come into the relationship with a bag (lol) you should go out with what you came in with. Maybe it’s not fair, but one could question the motive of his or her partner. When Maria Carey made Nick Cannon sign one everybody said that she was smart in doing that, but when a man makes a women sign a prenup they go “You can’t put a price on my love”. If you are rich then you aren’t a regular house wife, you don’t cook you eat out. Like Eddie Murphy said “ What you going to get a job at boutique on the weekends, here’s Three hundred Million and seventy dollars cause I want to do my share”. Get the F **k my face wit that Bull ‘ish. So there you go I’m dead locked” What do you think?

Friday, November 20, 2009

It Looks Like Another Love TKO

I'm going to start this article off with a message from the great Mya Angelou "if someone reveals themselves to you, believe them." Why do we spend so much wasted time on dealing with people whom we know aren't any good for us. A lot of times they drop little hints threw out the relationship that something maybe wrong they ass or that they crazy as hell . Stop thinking you can change people. You can't. Letting go can be an easy process if we stop waiting six or seven years into the relationship to do anything about it. I'm going to break letting go' down into two categories.' Letting go' of the relationship itself, and letting go of the person who made you suffered during the relationship. Hopefully this will be beneficial to you in some way.

If you are dating a man or woman who doesn't want kids and you do let it go'. If you are dating someone that likes to argue and you don't let it go'. If you feel you aren't sexually compatible with that person let it go", because once you let love sneak up in there it will become harder and harder to get out of the relationship. Pay attention to the little things. Only you know what you can and can't tolerate. If you are dating someone who doesn't have family values and you want a family let it go'. If you are dating someone with no ambitions, and you have goals let it go'. Do you see where I am going with this? Basically if you and the person don't share the same views on life how do you expect to combine the two. Letting go of the person can be a little harder than getting over the relationship aspect. A lot of us have kids in these relationships and have to deal with the baby's mother or father. Starting over is the best way to get over the person. Get rid of anything that reminds you of the love you had especially if this person hurt you in any way. It is those moments where you would start to remember the good times, and start to second guess yourself. Go ahead and remove pictures from all over the house unless there in your child's bedroom. Don't wear old jewelry that they bought you or try to be friends with them. Be civil, but don't try to be buddies. By trying to be friends only leaves room for you to act on your feelings at that particular moment. In the end you will see that letting go' of the relationship and person was beneficial to you and your children. It allows you remove bitterness from your heart and move on.